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SUMMARY
You meant well. So did I.
But somewhere between the meltdowns, the math lessons, and the late-night guilt spirals, she started to realize that some of the most common parenting phrases—like “just do your best” or “how dare you talk to me like that”—were quietly doing more harm than good.
In this raw, relatable episode, Christy-Faith opens up about the language she’s let go of in her parenting—and why. From the neuroscience of kids’ emotional development to the unintentional messages we send with our words, this is a confessional and a wake-up call for every parent who’s trying to raise strong, emotionally secure kids without breaking connection along the way.
Spoiler: you don’t need a script or a sticker chart. You need awareness, compassion, and the courage to grow right alongside your kids.
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RECAP
✅ The well-meaning parenting phrases that often backfire
✅ Why kids internalize our words more than we think
✅ What neuroscience says about language, memory, and emotional safety
✅ How to shift from shame-based language to connection-based correction
✅ The parenting myth of “just do your best”—and what to say instead
✅ Real-life examples of how changing our words changes everything
If you’ve ever said something and immediately regretted it… you’re not alone.
And this episode is your invitation to grow, gently—but honestly—alongside your kids.
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💬 What parenting phrase have YOU retired? Share your reflections in the comments or tag Christy-Faith on Instagram to join the conversation. Share it here!
